Being stuck with infertility blows. It is beyond frustrating that it’s not something that will just go away either. I seemed to convince myself it would just be okay after I had Journey. I don’t know why but it’s what I told myself.
This is not something I would want to have or something I would wish upon anyone. Having a big family has always been a dream and to have to struggle again and again really hurts.
I have people that message me all the time afraid they could be struggling and I want to assure you of a few things. Although many people do struggle just because you have to try for a few months does not mean you have infertility. It can take a healthy couple up to a YEAR to conceive. Infertility is not something thrown around lightly and if any doctor would even suggest that without running the countless tests or any tests that doctor is not treating you with care.
Since I have been super open with my journey over the years and am asked often I decided to share a few tips:
If you are under 35 and have tried for one year + then definitely see your doctor and ask about starting the testing or if you are over 35 and have tried for 6 months.
There is only a short period of time each month where you are able to get pregnant. I encourage you to use an app like ovia to track your cycle. This will then begin predicting things but can still be off so tracking ovulation through opks and temp charting is highly recommended.
Acupuncture has helped my cycle tremendously. My luteal phase was much too short before and after several months of regular acupuncture this was corrected after several miscarriages. If it is too short you will not have adequate time for implantation. This is the time follows ovulation to when your next period starts. This is the stage your uterus lining normally thickens to prepare for possible pregnancy. Acupuncture can also be used to help with egg quality and can also be used after ovulation occurs for a “holding treatment” to encourage pregnancy to stick. It can also be used for many other things but for fertility I highly recommend it!
Stay hydrated. Not only does your body need this to remain healthy but it also encourages healthy plump eggs and better cervical mucus. Better cervical mucus will help sperm survive longer while waiting for the egg to be released. Don’t drink much water? Of course you can still get pregnant but I’m just sharing tips that COULD help.
Exercise through the proliferative stage (this stage of your cycle is following your period and before ovulation) during your cycle is supposed to help because it encourages good circulation. Poor circulation can cause less cervical fluid making it more difficult for sperm.
I am by no means an expert but have a lot of personal experience in this situation so am asked very often for advice/support/opinions so just thought I’d share some off the top of my head.
If you think this is something you are struggling with definitely talk to your doctor. There are endless tests that need to take place in order to get this diagnosis and in the end can be given the diagnosis “unexplained infertility” which can be frustrating. But keep in mind this should not be thrown around lightly and definitely requires great investigation into your body. I can’t even tell you how much bloodwork I have gone through. Many times have gotten 10, 15 and even over 20 vials of blood taken at once.
Try not to stress although I know how nearly impossible it is not to!! And have faith. God is good!
Keep your head up. Use your support system.