Trying to get pregnant can start off as a fun exciting adventure. 1 out of 3 women will get pregnant the first month trying (or not trying even) and more than 8 out of 10 women will conceive within one year.
Then there are women like me and maybe you too. It starts off hopeful. Each month that goes on you keep telling yourself maybe it’ll be this month. Then as time goes on you realize something just isn’t right. It starts to become anxious, depressing, and overwhelming.
You start to compare yourself to everyone around you. You have friends that get pregnant within a few months every time they try for another baby. Or they find out they are pregnant and it’s that common line “we weren’t trying but weren’t preventing”. And then you begin to feel the hope and joy being sucked out of you. Let me tell you what John 10:10 says “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” I simply cannot find a more fitting bible verse to explain what is happening when you are in the battle of infertility.
When things feel hopeless I want you to know that there is always hope; we can grasp on to that hope through Jesus Christ. It was through the very situation of recurring miscarriage and fertility struggles that I met Christ. I’m here to tell you we aren’t meant to carry burdens heavier than life on our own. When we try to carry these things on our own it is life consuming and extremely overwhelming because we can’t see a way out. John 8:12 says “When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” From my experience through getting to know Jesus I can tell you this is so true! There are things so big in life we must hand them back to God and allow Him to carry us through them. We don’t have to be strong and do it alone we just have to be an obedient child of God! He loves us and wants to carry us through it, He is just waiting for you to open yourself up to allow Him to do it.
You might think I’ve totally lost it when I tell you we can rejoice in our suffering. Why? It is a test of our faith. It is planned. It shapes and strengthens real faith and is all consuming of that showy “performance” faith (words without action in other words). When we have a deep rooted faith and strong relationship in God we can recognize that this is above us and is all part of God’s plan. When we know that based on our faith and not our emotions we can recognize that through our hope, in a seemingly hopeless situation, is actually showing extreme hope for others(sowing spirit and not sowing flesh!). 1 Peter 4:13 says “But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.” Peter gives us several reasons why we can rejoice in our suffering and they all point to God (read through 1 Peter 4:12-19). Suffering is not outside the will of God. It is in God’s will. Suffering is purposeful! Keep rejoicing through suffering because it glorifies God. He sees this and He loves us.
There are two verses I want to share with you so you can be filled with hope through God. 1. Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Bring your struggles to God. Get to know Him. Form a strong bond with Him and He will bring you comfort and heal your heart. 2. Ephesians 3:20 “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” God is a God of great love and miracles. He is capable of doing far more than we can ever dream of or imagine. Perhaps your life story isn’t going the way you imagined. And to be honest it shouldn’t. God’s plan for us is so much bigger than ours. He knows our potential and it’s way more than we believe it to be. Give it all to Him and lean on Him and He will get you through this.
Thank Him. While we may be hurting within we must hold on to the fact that God has a plan and knows best. Thank Him for that.